I have written about it here before, the fact that I don't celebrate my birthday. So when people call to greet me on my birthday and ask where and when the celebration will be, they are met with uncomfortable silence. Or a blank stare. I don't know what and how to respond. There is nothing set for my birthday, no party, no celebration. Silently I ask myself, was I supposed to hold a party and treat everyone? Is this an obligation on my part.
So, usually, I just invite them to our house and join our family for dinner. Most probably, my mom would prepare a lavish meal. Of course, that is not what my friends or cousins expect. They expect a gathering in a restaurant or hotel. Or an out-of-town trip. Someplace nice, as Phoebe from Friends once complained, is always someplace expensive.

When Quincy asked me a few days ago where the celebration would be, I was like a deer staring into some headlights. Unless you have anything planned, I told him, I will be at home watching Ugly Betty and then The Late Show with David Letterman. Will you not have a party, he asked? Why should I prepare a party for myself, I said without trying to be coy or dismissive. And then I went on to remind him that I do not celebrate my birthday. [I am going to Boracay in a few days, true. But it is not to celebrate my birthday but to have some rest from my stressful urban life. The dates when my court schedule was light and so I could have some vacation just happened to be near my birthday.]
Last year, Quincy and I went to Tagaytay and had dinner in a known steak house. I am not excited to make another trip down south because of the road repairs still being done on the highway and the traffic is so bad. Not even if he drove for us.
A simple dinner, then? Yes, I said, if you like.

I am writing this nearly two weeks after my birthday. Indeed, some celebrations occurred.
When the night set by Quincy turned out to be the same night that I would be having dinner with my law school friends, I just invited him to join us. He was surprised that I extended the invitation. The unuttered question, of course, was, what would your friends think? But we got around it. He pretended to just happen to be in the same mall and so he took the opportunity to deliver his gift.
Some of my girlfriends gushed at his presence. Girls, naturally, swoon in the presence of jocks. Also, Quincy was a very popular collegiate varsity player. I was rained with questions of how I knew or met Quincy. I gave the old "he-is-a-client-who-has-become-my-friend-routine" and the matter was laid to rest. It also helped to shut down suspicions that Quincy has a long-time girlfriend.
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